Meet Connor, a Former Gray Area Drinker
When my friend, Conner decided to give up alcohol, he was harassed by his friends. They asked, “Dude, what are you going to get from the beverage cart on the golf course, soda?” The roars of laughter from his buddies were not easy for Conner to hear.
His friends’ response is typical and also the reason why it’s hard for men and women to give up drinking. They feel peer-pressured. It is also something that has become expected. But why?
Is it odd to not drink? We can congratulate a smoker who quits, but if someone wants to moderate or stop drinking, we ask questions? Why is this looked upon as an unfavorable decision?
Conner’s friends were giving him a hard time out of their fear. They didn’t know how this would affect their friendship with Conner. They admitted later on that they were a little envious of his tenacity, but worried things would change between them. Things did change, but not how they assumed.
Connor made his decision to refrain from drinking for several reasons:
- His health – He had a scare with some lab work, and his doctor informed him that he would need to reduce his alcohol intake.
- His wife and kids – Conner was staying after work to have a couple of beers before going home. His wife noticed. His kids felt forgotten.
- He was gaining weight – He looked ten years older and felt horrible. He realized that his love of bourbon was attributing to his weight gain, not to mention the daily IPAs he was consuming.
It was time for Connor to make some decisions. He was a typical gray area drinker.
From the eyes of his friends and colleagues, he was living a good life. He appeared to have it all; the dream job, the big house with a pool, the sports car, and his beautiful family. No one knew of his internal questioning and pain. Only he did, and that was enough.
Fast forward 18 months – If you saw him today, you wouldn’t believe it’s the same guy. He looks amazing! Conner successfully lost 20 lbs, was able to stop all medications, and managed to improve his golf score from a 20 handicap to a 10! His marriage has improved, and his kids feel loved and appreciated. His career skyrocketed as well. He is now at the top of his game and was just named a managing partner at his firm.
While this is a great ending, the road to get there took work and commitment. Ever since I have known Connor, he has been the “go-get-em” type. Nothing is outside of reach. He put in the effort of implementing a morning routine and has been committed to working daily on his thought patterns. He told me recently that he has never felt more “alive.”
So whatever happened with his friends? They watched Connor become a happier man. They witnessed his chipper attitude early Saturday mornings on the golf course while they were groggy from the night before. They watched his wife go from being distant to incredibly loving. They marveled at his success he was achieving at work. They teased him on his baggy clothes and encouraged him to buy new pants that fit his new & improved physique!
Over time, Connor’s friends became influenced to try doing the same. They cut back on their drinking and one friend stopped altogether. Who knew, right? When people see positive changes in other’s lives, they become attracted to it. They’re also trying to beat Connor’s golf handicap!
Good luck on that one, fellas!
If you resonate with *Connor’s story and want to know more about how you can achieve the same success, schedule a free Discovery call today. You can have it all too. (Maybe not a 10 handicap but you can try.)
*Name and minor details altered for identity protection.