Gray area drinking
is the wide ambiguous area that exists between being a “take it or leave it” drinker and someone that identifies as an alcoholic. A gray area drinker appears to be living a high functioning life. They can justify their drinking with many excuses such as: “I don’t drink during the day. I never get hangovers. I only drink on the weekend.”
On the surface, a gray area drinker is doing well for themselves. They have not experienced any negative consequences in their personal or professional life. Because of this, they think they are “fine”.
Sound familiar? That was me for years.
Once I arrived at my own personal “enough” and felt I had no other options, I went the traditional route. I got a sponsor, I attended meetings and I read the big book. While I did gain some valuable insight and tools for my newly abstinent lifestyle, I never identified as an alcoholic. I was stuck in a place that I didn’t believe I fit in. Not because I was above it, but because I didn’t want to say things that I knew in my heart were not true.
For me, and so many others, this victim mentality that I was led to believe wasn’t how I wanted to write my destiny.
Saying something after “I AM” is so powerful and life-changing.
In this case, it was life-sucking. Why did I want to remain broken? NO THANK YOU.
A year later, I discovered the term ‘gray area drinking’. Finally, a place I recognized! A place I said, “yes, that was me!” No more shame. No more labels or feeling like I did something wrong.
What I gained far surpassed my understanding and overall happiness. Life is still filled with challenges, of course, but I have the power to push through with perseverance and strength. I gained the much-needed tools through positive reinforcement. This wasn’t a woo-woo magical approach, this was hard work. It was an arduous journey but what I experienced was nothing short of amazing.
It is now my privilege to share this with you. You may ask, so what’s the secret?