About Kari Schwear

Founder of GrayTonic | Executive Lifestyle Coach | Creator of the DECIDE Method

You’ve built a life that looks successful from the outside—but inside, something’s missing.
It’s not falling apart, but it’s far from fulfilling. You’re operating in the gray—that space between fine and fully alive.

Maybe it’s…

A habit that quietly holds you back (like alcohol or distraction).
A marriage that feels more like business partners than soulmates.
A career that checks all the boxes but doesn’t light you up.
A sense that you’ve drifted from who you’re truly meant to be.

I see you—because I was you!

For years, I coasted in the gray.
On paper, my life looked great. I was achieving, performing, and keeping it all together. But deep down? I was disconnected from myself, from my husband, from purpose… from truth.

It all started with one realization:
I was using alcohol to cope.
Not in a way that required treatment or a rock bottom, but just enough to blur the edges of my life. That one gray area forced me to look at all the other ones I was avoiding.

And that’s when everything changed.

I stopped pretending.
I started telling the truth.
And I created a method—The DECIDE Method—to help others do the same.

What I Believe

You don’t need another hack or 30-day reset.
You need a deep, lasting identity shift—one rooted in truth, action, and alignment.

My work is grounded in the belief that:

⮕ Your habits are a reflection of your self-worth.

⮕ You can’t behave in a way that’s inconsistent with who you believe you are.

⮕ Lasting change comes from radical honesty, spiritual connection, and relentless intention.

Whether we’re addressing gray area drinking, strained relationships, a dull marriage, spiritual drift, or burnout at work—it all begins with one decision.

My Marriage

After 30 years together, my husband Rob and I faced one of the hardest seasons of our lives. We loved each other deeply, but the connection felt strained, and unresolved emotions had taken their toll. It wasn’t easy, but we chose to have the hard conversations, face the truth, and rebuild—not just our relationship, but ourselves. Today, our marriage is stronger than ever. See our story here.

My Career

I’d achieved so much on paper, but fulfillment felt like a moving target. Seven career paths later, I was still chasing passion while carrying the weight of questioning whether I was doing enough – or being enough.

My Identity

I’d spent so much of my life trying to meet expectations – other people’s and my own – that I lost touch with what I truly wanted. It wasn’t until I got honest with myself about who I was and what mattered to me that I began to feel aligned again.

Each gray area reminded me of this truth: life isn’t black and white.

Most of us live in the gray—where things feel unclear, misaligned, or stuck. But here’s what I’ve learned:

Staying in the gray is a choice.

And so is stepping out of it.

Ready to leave your gray areas behind?

BOOK YOUR DISCOVERY CALL TODAY!

This isn’t about quick fixes or surface-level solutions. It’s about getting honest with yourself, resetting what isn’t working, and building a foundation for real, lasting change.

Through my DECIDE Method, I help high-achievers like you:

Identify the gray areas that are keeping you stuck.

Reset the habits and patterns that no longer serve you.

Gain clarity on what truly matters.

Align your actions with your values and the life you want to create.

This is about more than just change – it’s about creating a life that feels intentional, purposeful, and fully aligned with who you are meant to be.

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Why I Do This Work

I’ve been where you are – wondering if true happiness is possible, questioning whether life will ever feel different.

I know how heavy it is to feel stuck in habits and patterns that don’t serve you. To wake up every day wishing things would change, but not knowing how to make it happen.

But here’s what I also know: change is possible.

And when you decide to leave the gray areas behind, you can build a life that feels clear, fulfilling, and completely your own.

GET UNSTUCK
FILL THE HOLE INSIDE
QUESTION THE NARRATIVE

“Working with Kari has opened up so many possibilities and paths for me in areas that I hadn’t expected. I’m so grateful for investing in myself. She helped me to become the best father and husband that I can be and I’m excited for my future. ”

-Mark Johnson

“Working with Kari for six months brought out things that were gray areas inside that I didn’t even realize were there! She is direct when she needs to be, yet she does so with kindness. From the very first phone call with Kari, my life is forever changed.””

-Gina Stone

“I initially had reluctance to contact Kari because I never thought I needed or wanted a coach. But months after that initial conversation, it’s been a tremendous asset and investment in myself and I’m glad I did! I’m really excited about what the future holds for me. I highly recommend reaching out to Kari.”

-Danny Kriss

I know what it feels like to wonder if true happiness is even in the cards for you.

You’re successful, but something feels off. It’s not terrible, but it’s not great either. You’re living in the gray—that space between “fine” and “fulfilled.”

I get it. I’ve been there. I know how exhausting it is to put on the facade that everything’s perfect when deep down, you feel stuck, restless, and unsure how to move forward.

Here’s the truth: staying in the gray is a choice.

But so is stepping out of it.

Getting started is simple. Book your 15-minute clarity call, and we’ll talk about where you feel stuck and explore how to move forward toward the fulfillment you’ve been craving.

BOOK YOUR CLARITY CALL