We all experience stress on a daily basis. From work, to home life, to personal relationships, feeling overwhelmed by our emotions can cause us to act impulsively and make decisions that are not in our best interest. However, when we take the time to consider the facts of a situation rather than allowing our feelings to cloud our judgment, we can better respond to our stressors in a manner that is healthier and more productive. […]
Don’t just make goals, make the reason why you want the goal most important. I’m talking about making intentions. You see, when it comes to making changes in our lives, we often hear about setting goals. However, the concept of intentions is often overlooked, even though it can play a crucial role in our ability to implement new habits and reach our desired outcomes. What are Intentions and Goals? Goals are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, […]
Whether it’s with our team at work or our kids at home, we all know that being reactive can often lead to regretting an action or response later on. But when we take a step back and respond with curiosity, the outcome is almost always more favorable than if we had just reacted without thinking. This blog post will focus on the power of asking questions and why responding instead of reacting is so important. […]
Have you ever made a decision that didn’t turn out well? We’ve all been there! But why do we sometimes make bad choices? More often than not, it’s because we don’t like to feel bad. We only know how to escape our feelings, which can lead us to self-sabotage. So what can be done? The answer is pretty simple. All we have to do is take a step back and examine what is really going […]
Let me begin by stating there is no such thing as a perfect life. We ALL experience a feeling of “is this all there is?” from time to time. For some, this has been a way of life. When you think of mediocrity, what comes to mind? The Merriam Webster dictionary definition of mediocre is this: Mediocre – of moderate or low quality, value, ability, or performance My definition: So-so, humdrum, meh, settling, just okay […]
Did you know that you possess a powerful tool within you? It’s called intention. You see, your intentions are personal. Intentions are present-based, daily commitments to self. They are your secret weapon of power. They are everything. Goals vs The Power of Intention We can sometimes confuse the word intention with goals. They are not the same thing. Goals are achievements to ‘check off a box’ when completed. They are the big audacious desires of […]
I love the word Embrace. The definition means an act of accepting or supporting something willingly or enthusiastically. It’s also an essential part of the SABER flow. Embrace is something you may be tempted to skip over as you move through the SABER process. Why? Because it can feel selfish, or self-serving. It can also be difficult to accept the circumstances in front of you. So why is it important to support yourself willingly or […]
Breathing is a precious gift. We don’t have to think about it, of course, but what happens when we do it with deliberate intention? SABER is an easy flow to put into play whenever you find yourself fighting an urge, temptation, inner mind chatter, or when you’re experiencing an emotion that you don’t prefer. By using breath deliberately, you are self-regulating and calming your mind and body. Let’s recap the SABER up to this point. […]
If you’re like me, you feel as though you can’t turn your brain off at times, as if there are hamsters on a wheel in your head. Or perhaps it’s an urge to have or do something you probably shouldn’t have. Or maybe you find yourself angry and ready to pull your hair out because you’re so stressed! What should you do when you find yourself experiencing this power struggle? STOP! Say the word stop […]
Secrets. We all have at least one in our life. Some may be as innocent as stealing a pack of gum in 6th grade while others may be more serious such as an addiction, an eating disorder, an affair, or something else. The one that I kept mostly quiet, and unassuming, was my relationship with alcohol. As a nightly drinker, the story I told myself was that I was sophisticated and well cultured. It sounded […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.