Why You Should Share Your Story
I still remember the first time I told a friend about my drinking. She responded that if I weren’t careful, I would be forced to give it up rather than it being my choice.
Her words stayed with me for another two years.
I continued to drink, but her voice was in my head. Like others, I had to reach my “enough” before taking my addiction seriously. That day came in the summer of 2016.
I sought out a friend that specialized in addictions to get some insight. She told me that it was up to me to quit and had to be my choice. I drank for another six weeks. I still wasn’t ready.
When the time came, I knew.
I was tired of being tired, sick of hiding, and pretending my life was perfect because it wasn’t. I spent the whole weekend preparing to quit. After telling my mom and sister, I told my kids. I was happy to have their support, but I also knew that they would hold me accountable. I had mixed feelings about that, to be honest.
Since I was on a roll of honesty, I continued to share my story. In the first week, I managed to tell about 12 people. Yikes, this was now real. I no longer could hide.
A few things happened as a result of my sharing. My hope for you is that you can experience something similar.
Here’s why you should share your story
Freedom emerged – Finally! I was free of this secret, free of the hiding and free of my inner shame and guilt. I no longer had to pretend I had my act together. I allowed myself to experience grace and let go of worrying about what “could happen”. I booked a week-long trip to New Smyrna Beach, Florida, by myself, to reflect on my life and my addiction. To this day, that was one of the best weeks of my life. I allowed self-love to take over and focus on what I needed.
The healing process began. I had a long journey in front of me, and I knew it. Quitting drinking wasn’t the difficult part for me. What was hard was discovering my inner critic and limiting beliefs that kept me stuck for over four decades. I didn’t realize the trauma from my childhood was ruling my life. I didn’t have my voice either. I kept quiet for far too long, keeping the truth of my experiences stuffed so deeply that it took years to uncover. The truth is, I’m still exploring the process, as the work is never done.
Your story will help others. Little did I know that by sharing my story with my close friends would help them also. I became the go-to-girl when someone was thinking about their relationship with alcohol. Back in the early months of sobriety, if you told me that I’d be sharing my story with the world and committing my life to spread the awareness of gray area drinking, I would have told you that you were crazy! It was one thing to tell a few people, but share it publicly? No way! Well, we all know how that turned out. I couldn’t be more grateful.
You may be thinking there is NO way you would share your story with anyone, but I’m here to ask you to consider it. When you do, you allow yourself to be heard so you can move forward with your life and have what you want. If you’re not ready, I understand. Then let my words be your planted seed of truth. I hope reading this will ring in your head as it did for me years ago.
Perhaps your story isn’t drinking, like mine. Maybe it’s pornography, gambling, drugs, sugar, overeating, or thoughts of suicide.
It only takes one call, one step, one action.
Will you consider it?
If you’re ready and willing to share, I’m here. Schedule a free Discovery Call today.