In today’s blog, we are talking about the people in our lives.
The truth is, our relationships are mirrors. They reflect the parts of us we’re proud of, and the parts we still need to work on.
When one of those mirrors cracks, the ripple touches everything, meaning, your other Core 4 areas of Body, Being, and Business.
That’s what this third Core 4 area — Balance — is all about. The health of your relationships with your partner, your family, your friends, and your colleagues. (In that order).
Because the truth is, when even one of these connections is off, the other areas most likely feel it too.
Your Tonic for the Week
Balance isn’t about keeping everyone happy. It’s about staying connected, deeply and intentionally, to the people who matter most.
For me, this one hits home. Back in 2019, Rob and I hit a wall. From the outside, things looked fine. But inside, we were disconnected. Not just from each other, but from who we were becoming as individuals. This greatly effected our health, relationship with God, and our business world, independently and well as jointly.
It took hard conversations, humility, and a willingness to rebuild. I’m not talking about the version of our marriage that once was, but the one that could be. And truthfully, we’re still doing that work every day. We always will be. It’s directed focus paired with deep intentionality.
Relationships aren’t static, as you know. They evolve. And the moment you stop tending to them, the distance begins to grow.
Here’s where the gray area sneaks in. When a relationship starts to feel tense, lonely, or misaligned, most people don’t face it head on. They numb it.
No wonder people reach for another drink, scroll endlessly, or bury themselves in work! It’s easier to self-soothe than it is to face the discomfort of disconnection. I know this firsthand.
But avoidance never fixes the problem. It just deepens the divide. The longer you run from what’s real, the more you lose sight of what matters most.
Your Next Move
This week, take inventory of the relationships that mean the most to you. Ask yourself:
- Where am I withholding honesty or attention?
- What conversations have I been avoiding? And why?
- Who in my life needs to hear, “I love you,” “I’m sorry,” or “I’m here”?
Start small, one relationship, one action, one moment of truth. That’s how love begins to return.
What I’m Loving
- A Soulful Marriage by Rachel Glick — this book inspired the Couples Retreat I hosted earlier this year. It’s a beautiful reminder that partnership is a spiritual, honest, and working practice. It takes daily deposits and watering to keep it healthy and strong.
- The Peace Index by Jeremie Kubicek — a must-read for understanding where your peace is being disrupted and how to bring balance, (and peace), back to all areas of your life. You’ll also see a similar feel to the Core 4, as we are discussing in this series.
- Ho’oponopono Prayer — A powerful Hawaiian mantra to heal relationships through repentance, forgiveness, transmutation and gratitude. It’s four simple phrases to say over a loved one to yourself (or directly to the person when ready). They are: “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.”
The gray area in Balance is one of the easiest to overlook because love alone isn’t enough to keep a relationship strong.
It takes truth, effort and humility. And the willingness to keep choosing connection, especially when it’s uncomfortable.
If your relationships feel “fine,” but not fulfilling, don’t ignore that tug. That’s your soul asking for more.
Wishing you peace and love this week.
Kari
P.S. If this message struck a chord, I’m opening up a few spots for a new experience called His, Hers & Ours Discovery Calls.
This is a powerful 3-call series designed for couples who want to see, and understand, each other in a completely new way. Using science-backed data-driven insights specific to you both, we’ll uncover how you each think, communicate, and respond under stress.
You’ll learn to see your partner the way they need to be seen, and discover what’s been missing in the way you connect.
It’s the same process Rob and I went through in 2020 that completely transformed our marriage.
