About Kari Schwear

Founder of GrayTonic | Executive Lifestyle Coach | Creator of the DECIDE Method

You’ve built a life that looks successful from the outside—but inside, something’s missing.
It’s not falling apart, but it’s far from fulfilling. You’re operating in the gray—that space between fine and fully alive.

Maybe it’s…

A habit that quietly holds you back (like alcohol or distraction).
A marriage that feels more like business partners than soulmates.
A career that checks all the boxes but doesn’t light you up.
A sense that you’ve drifted from who you’re truly meant to be.

I see you—because I was you!

For years, I coasted in the gray.
On paper, my life looked great. I was achieving, performing, and keeping it all together. But deep down? I was disconnected from myself, from my husband, from purpose… from truth.

It all started with one realization:
I was using alcohol to cope.
Not in a way that required treatment or a rock bottom, but just enough to blur the edges of my life. That one gray area forced me to look at all the other ones I was avoiding.

And that’s when everything changed.

I stopped pretending.
I started telling the truth.
And I created a method—The DECIDE Method—to help others do the same.

What I Believe

For me, it started with alcohol.

I wasn’t an alcoholic, and I didn’t need recovery in the traditional sense. But I knew I was using drinking to cope – with stress, self-doubt, and the pressure of trying to hold everything together while still feeling like I wasn’t enough.

It took years to recognize the patterns, and even longer to decide I was ready for a change. But once I did, everything shifted. I discovered the term Gray Area Drinking, and for the first time, I felt understood.

But alcohol was just one of my gray areas. As I started to make changes, I realized there were other places in my life where things felt unclear, stuck, or misaligned.

What I Do

At GrayTonic, I help high-performing men and women:

Break the autopilot patterns keeping them stuck
Reconnect with their spouse, their spirit, and their purpose
Align their actions with the life they actually want
Lead themselves (and others) with clarity, conviction, and confidence

Through high-level 1:1 coaching, immersive retreats, and my signature Ascend 10 Mastermind, I work with leaders who are ready to operate at their highest level—without sacrificing their soul, health, or marriage to get there.

Why This Matters

I do this work because I’ve walked through many gray areas myself.
I know what it’s like to feel like something’s off and not know where to begin.
I know the power of waking up—of owning your truth and deciding to lead yourself first.

And I know what’s waiting on the other side of that decision: Peace. Power. Purpose.

Next Step

If you’re tired of coasting through a life that doesn’t feel fully yours…
If you’re ready to lead with clarity and stop living in the gray…

Let’s talk.

Book a Discovery call, and let’s explore what stepping out of the gray could look like for you.

Each gray area reminded me of this truth: life isn’t black and white.

Most of us live in the gray—where things feel unclear, misaligned, or stuck. But here’s what I’ve learned:

Staying in the gray is a choice.

And so is stepping out of it.

Ready to leave your gray areas behind?

BOOK YOUR DISCOVERY CALL

This Isn’t a Quick Fix. It’s a Wake-Up Call.

This work isn’t about hacks, band-aids, or surface-level change.
It’s about getting radically honest with yourself, resetting what’s no longer serving you, and laying the foundation for a life that actually feels good on the inside.

Through my proprietary DECIDE Method, I help high-achievers like you:

Identify the gray areas that are keeping you stuck
Break the patterns and habits holding you back
Gain deep clarity on what truly matters
Align your actions with your values, purpose, and vision

This isn’t just about change—it’s about reclaiming your power and creating a life that feels fully aligned with who you are and who you’re becoming.

BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL

LET’S GET REAL . . . TOGETHER.

You’ve worked hard to build a good life…
So why does it still feel like something’s missing?

You’re not falling apart, but you’re not fully lit up either.
That quiet discontent? That restlessness? That feeling like you’re meant for more?

That’s the gray.
And it’s costing you more than you realize.

I know how draining it is to smile on the outside while questioning everything on the inside.
To be the one everyone counts on—but secretly wonder who’s really there for you.

Here’s the truth:
Staying in the gray is a decision.
But so is choosing to bust out of it.

You don’t need to figure it all out today—just take one intentional step.

Book your Discovery Call.
We’ll talk, no pressure. Just you, me, and the space to explore what’s next.

BOOK YOUR DISCOVERY CALL