MEET KARI SCHWEAR
I know what it’s like to have everything look successful on the outside while feeling lost on the inside.
For years, I carried quiet stress behind a polished life — using alcohol to cope with pressure, to unwind, to feel something. The gap between who I looked like and how I felt grew wider every day.
I was functioning, but not fulfilled.
Capable, but disconnected.
Present, but not truly alive.
My turning point wasn’t dramatic. It was honest.
I admitted I was living in the gray — that space between “I’m fine” and “I’m fully living.”
When I stepped out of the gray, everything shifted: my marriage, my faith, my identity, my purpose.
Now I help growth-minded leaders do the same as The Gray Area Coach — with compassion, clarity, confidentiality, and a framework that actually works.
BACKGROUND & EXPERIENCE
I didn’t become a coach by watching people from the outside. I became one because I lived in the gray myself — and learned how to get out of it. My journey included multiple career paths, leadership roles, personal reinvention, and deep work around healing, identity, and behavior.
Training in emotional intelligence, communication, and personal transformation.
Co-author in two personal development books featuring my SABER and DECIDE methodologies.
Specialized in uncovering stress patterns, coping habits, and creating sustainable alignment using the Core 4 (Body, Being, Balance, Business).
Creator of highly intentional personal and leadership retreats that reconnect people with themselves, their relationships, and God.
Founder of GrayTonic®, dedicated to helping leaders break free from gray-area living.
Certified Intellect Scan practitioner helping couples and teams understand each other with data, not assumptions.
After 30 years together, Rob and I faced one of the hardest seasons of our lives.
We loved each other deeply, but connection had faded under stress and unspoken emotions. We chose truth over pretending — and rebuilt, not just our marriage, but ourselves.
Today our relationship is stronger, more honest, and more spiritually aligned than ever.
On paper, I had checked every box — success, leadership, recognition.
But fulfillment always felt just out of reach.
After seven career pivots, I realized I wasn’t lost… I was misaligned.
Stepping out of the gray helped me build work that finally made sense.
For years I tried to meet everyone’s expectations — professionally, socially, spiritually. Somewhere along the way, I lost the sound of my own voice.
Leaving the gray meant coming back to myself — to my values, my faith, and who God created me to be.
That’s when alignment returned.
OUR MISSION & VALUES
GrayTonic exists to help growth-minded leaders break free from the quiet, invisible struggles they carry alone. Many capable, successful people live in the gray — functioning well, but feeling misaligned, disconnected, or stuck inside.
Our mission is quite simple.
We believe that true success isn’t just about achievement—it’s about fulfillment, clarity, and living in alignment with your deepest values.
Your privacy is sacred. What you share stays between us.
You don’t need to perform here. You get to show up as you are.
Every transformation begins with truth and awareness.
Change lasts when it’s rooted in identity, not willpower.
WHO WE SERVE
You’re a business owner, executive, entrepreneur, or growth-minded leader.
Your success is visible, but internally you feel stuck, foggy, or unfulfilled.
You’re using alcohol, work, or coping habits more than you’d like to admit.
You value confidentiality and emotional safety — your reputation matters.
Traditional therapy or generic coaching hasn’t helped you move forward.
You’re ready for real change, not surface-level advice.
You want to reclaim time, energy, and purpose without losing momentum.
You understand transformation requires investment of time, energy, and resources.
Most people live their entire lives in the gray — that quiet place between “I’m fine” and “I’m fulfilled.”
But staying in the gray is a choice. And so is stepping out of it.
If something inside you is stirring… pay attention.
That’s where transformation begins.
