Are you a people pleaser?? Let’s talk about your boundaries. Have you said this would be the last time you say ‘yes’ to something you don’t really want to do… So, why are you doing it? Are you afraid to say no? Do you feel guilty for having time to yourself? Are you saying, “well, no one else will do it, so I might as well?” I get it, I feel that way too. We...
Have you ever wondered why you do something over and over again knowing that it’s not the best decision for you, but you try again hoping for a different outcome? Yup, me too. It’s the definition of insanity, doing something over and over again expecting a different result. And this, my friend, is what keeps us stuck in pattern loops, or we can also say habit loops. Insanity… Stop the Insanity! We all have familiar...
I love the word Embrace. The definition means an act of accepting or supporting something willingly or enthusiastically. It’s also an essential part of the SABER flow. Embrace is something you may be tempted to skip over as you move through the SABER process. Why? Because it can feel selfish, or self-serving. It can also be difficult to accept the circumstances in front of you. So why is it important to support yourself willingly or...
Today we are continuing the SABER flow by looking at the A in SABER. ACKNOWLEDGE You just learned about the importance of saying STOP out loud when you find yourself in a power struggle within your mind. By saying STOP, you could bring awareness of this inner mind struggle forward to your conscious mind where you rationalize thinking. Now that you have successfully paused the inner chatter, it’s time to acknowledge the thinking. What are...
If you’re like me, you feel as though you can’t turn your brain off at times, as if there are hamsters on a wheel in your head. Or perhaps it’s an urge to have or do something you probably shouldn’t have. Or maybe you find yourself angry and ready to pull your hair out because you’re so stressed! What should you do when you find yourself experiencing this power struggle? STOP! Say the word stop...
Secrets. We all have at least one in our life. Some may be as innocent as stealing a pack of gum in 6th grade while others may be more serious such as an addiction, an eating disorder, an affair, or something else. The one that I kept mostly quiet, and unassuming, was my relationship with alcohol. As a nightly drinker, the story I told myself was that I was sophisticated and well cultured. It sounded...
Have you ever told yourself a convoluted story that was so intricately woven with thoughts only to find out none of it was true? It’s easy to do when our brains have an average of 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. This can create havoc in our minds, and we end up manifesting our destiny without knowing the implications. So what is the secret on how to stop your mind from racing? This is important as...
When I first contemplated ending my drinking career in August 2016, I gasped at the timing. “Maybe I should wait”, I thought. After all, my BIG birthday was just around the corner in January. We had plans to go to a Caribbean island with two other couples to an all-inclusive resort where alcohol would be free-flowing. My mind started swirling as I went into panic mode. The anxiety was unbearable. How would I survive this? ...
You’re standing at the crossroads and know a decision must happen, but you’re frozen. “Why is this so hard?”, you wonder. Vulnerability, embarrassment, and shame are the reasons that prevent you from reaching out for help. That, plus a little denial mixed in. Maybe you aren’t ready to admit that you even need support. After all, you’re a professional and need to “look the part”, and conduct yourself as such. It’s too risky to let...
You know the familiar term, “Ignorance is bliss,” right? Well, never before has that term been so accurate as it is today. As I write this blog post, it’s April 2020, the year that changed right before our eyes. It’s also Alcohol Awareness Month, a time that is set aside to talk openly about the facts of alcohol. It’s Alcohol Awareness Month! Before you close off from the topic and say, “that’s not me”, consider...
I am a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career-path conqueror, speaker, writer, coach, and entrepreneur. I am also a former gray area drinker that struggled with understanding the why and how I got there.
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