We are just over two weeks into January 2022, so let me ask… How are YOU doing with sticking with it, and in general? Perhaps you might be feeling a bit stuck and feeling like you might be failing this attempt of an alcohol-free January? If so, not to worry. I got you covered! Let’s look at the top 5 reasons why you might be struggling this January, and more importantly, what you can do […]
Let me begin by stating there is no such thing as a perfect life. We ALL experience a feeling of “is this all there is?” from time to time. For some, this has been a way of life. When you think of mediocrity, what comes to mind? The Merriam Webster dictionary definition of mediocre is this: Mediocre – of moderate or low quality, value, ability, or performance My definition: So-so, humdrum, meh, settling, just okay […]
While April 2021 may look a little brighter than April 2020, it’s still a good time to Question the Drink. Alcohol Awareness Month Welcome to April’s Alcohol Awareness Month, the official month to bring attention to society’s love affair with alcohol. Why is this a big deal and why should you care? Because either you or someone you know may be drinking more than intended, and it’s a perfect time to question the drink. Think […]
I have a confession to make. There are occasions when I become “unglued”. I turn into a crazy person who cries and yells simultaneously. It’s not pretty. And God bless my husband. He sits back and allows me to have my fit, not saying a word. He lets me have my temper tantrum, and when it’s over, he hugs me and tells me it will be okay. Sometimes my initial response is to escape from […]
Have you ever told yourself a convoluted story that was so intricately woven with thoughts only to find out none of it was true? It’s easy to do when our brains have an average of 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. This can create havoc in our minds, and we end up manifesting our destiny without knowing the implications. So what is the secret on how to stop your mind from racing? This is important as […]
Maybe you’ve recently heard the term, gray area drinking, and wondered if it’s okay to be in the gray? Anytime we put the words, “okay” and “alcohol” together, I raise an eyebrow. If you’re asking what the heck is gray area drinking, you can read more here at, What is Gray Area Drinking. If you’re someone that enjoys bourbon on the rocks or a glass of red Napa Valley Cabernet from time to time, this […]
When I first contemplated ending my drinking career in August 2016, I gasped at the timing. “Maybe I should wait”, I thought. After all, my BIG birthday was just around the corner in January. We had plans to go to a Caribbean island with two other couples to an all-inclusive resort where alcohol would be free-flowing. My mind started swirling as I went into panic mode. The anxiety was unbearable. How would I survive this? […]
You know the familiar term, “Ignorance is bliss,” right? Well, never before has that term been so accurate as it is today. As I write this blog post, it’s April 2020, the year that changed right before our eyes. It’s also Alcohol Awareness Month, a time that is set aside to talk openly about the facts of alcohol. It’s Alcohol Awareness Month! Before you close off from the topic and say, “that’s not me”, consider […]
A question all sober-curious drinkers dread is, “why aren’t you drinking”? The silent gulp in the throat, the spinning thoughts for a convincing response, and the deep insecurity of exposing oneself is enough reason to say screw it and give in. The societal pressure, overall acceptance, and expectation of drinking alcohol can be overwhelming to those trying to moderate or abstain. Wherever you go, there it is. As a former drinker myself, I experienced comments […]
Having a challenging childhood and attending 12 different schools in just nine years, I was that awkward kid that tried too hard to fit in. You know the type, right? I did “all the things” to get the attention and approval of others. This led to immense deflation of any possible self-worth. It was the perfect set up for what I refer to as living in the gray. I was bullied in kindergarten for being […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.