Let me begin by stating there is no such thing as a perfect life. We ALL experience a feeling of “is this all there is?” from time to time. For some, this has been a way of life.
When you think of mediocrity, what comes to mind?
The Merriam Webster dictionary definition of mediocre is this:
Mediocre – of moderate or low quality, value, ability, or performance
My definition: So-so, humdrum, meh, settling, just okay
Mediocrity can affect all aspects of our lives. We observe this in relationships with people, family, work, and our activities. This feeling of low-quality living leads to poor choices, including addictive behaviors such as drinking, overeating, or staying in toxic relationships.
Many of us settle for mediocrity because we are comfortable with it, and it’s easier.
Why do we find ourselves settling for mediocrity?
We settle for less because we fear being alone, we feel social pressure to remain idle. This is especially true in relationships, you feel an obligation to stay because you’ve been together for so long, or stayed at a job too long. It may appear that it’s just easier than to ruffle feathers or look for an out.
So, how do you know if you are settling for less?
Let me ask you these questions: What’s the relationship you have with yourself? And to others? What is the attitude you’re projecting towards these relationships? Do you feel dissatisfied in any area of your life? Can you imagine a better situation, or have been secretly desiring something better?
The truth is, you’re not alone. We have all found ourselves settling for mediocrity at times. Our reasoning is to avoid pain and hurt. We choose this because oftentimes we feel it’s what we deserve or say it’s not that bad.
The good news? YOU can break the cycle and STOP settling.
Tips for action
The following tips will help you remove fear, stop settling and start moving forward.
- Begin rebuilding your self-esteem and confidence.
- Replace negative thoughts with positive ones and this begins with gratitude
- Surround yourself with uplifting and inspiring people – protect your energy
- Carve time out every day for yourself. Make this a non-negotiable time for YOU
- Catch yourself on how you’re perceiving a situation
- Let go of your past identity
- Those lies you created about yourself, are not true. Begin replacing the negative lies with uplifting new decisions about yourself
- Work with a coach, therapist, or counselor to work through limiting beliefs to create new beliefs.
- Start doing activities that you love that bring you joy.
- Take small steps each day that provide you with micro-wins.
- Join a community with like-minded interests.
- Change something up inside your house that’s been bugging you. This will give you a sense of control over your choices.
- Move away from the things that exhaust you and are toxic (activities & relationships).
- Have the tough conversations
- Don’t brush things under the rug. This only makes this worse. Be bold and take a stand for yourself. Have the conversation and be heartfelt and forthcoming.
- Look in the mirror. Most often the necessary conversation begins with you.
Make a commitment to yourself and know your worth. I promise you, friend, you are worthy and are enough. None of us are perfect, but we can strive to be better.
If you’re ready to take action, stop settling for mediocrity, and have the tough conversations, let’s schedule a Discovery Call to get you started. Click here for my calendar.