Do you remember when you were a teenager and were directed to come home by curfew or you’d be grounded? While you recognized this was good for you, it felt forceful and controlling. You knew your parents were only doing the right thing, but nobody wants to be told what to do, not as a teenager nor as an adult.
Perhaps you’re a rebel like me. You do things “your way”.
I look at rules and structure and think, that’s not for me! I don’t want any boundaries or rules! And I especially don’t want anyone telling me what to do.
Can you relate?
When my husband first commented on my nightly glass of wine in 2009, I told him I was no different than the European culture that drank every day and to get off my back. What’s the big deal?? Sheesh!
Then it was my girlfriend, Alicia, that said something to me. She commented on more than one occasion that she thought I was drinking a bit too often and to be careful. I politely reminded her to mind her own business.
So, are you a rebel or a boss?
Fast forward a few years…it was another friend that said something. I saw her every month on a Saturday morning and every time I felt like crap. Why? Because I had too much to drink the night before. She said something that stuck with me. She said, “Kari, if you’re not careful now, you may come to a place where you will no longer be able to enjoy wine.” I heard her but said that “I was fine”.
I was also terrified of the thought. Me without wine? NEVER! ?
And then there was my husband, again. This time he told me I better get my act together or I’m out of the front stoop with my cats! He was half kidding but I knew his patience with me was getting thin. His mom was an alcoholic and he wasn’t about to have his wife become one either.
I didn’t listen to ANYONE.
Perhaps alcohol isn’t the thing you’re holding on to, but what is? What are you clinging to that you know is not good for you?
A relationship? Your stressful career? Gambling or gaming? Procrastination? Eating poorly or not getting enough exercise? People-pleasing?
What is it, friend?
If you’ve been hearing the internal voices tell you that you should examine this more closely, listen to them. Let this be YOUR choice before you’re forced into change. Nobody wants that. When you decide to do it for yourself, it becomes more meaningful and valuable. It says you’re still in control.
Remember, you are the ultimate prize. Put yourself first by listening to what you already know. That’s not being a rebel, that’s being a BOSS!
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