In a world of incessant noise and constant external influence, it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle. We’re continually bombarded with information, advice, standards, and expectations from others. Often, without even realizing it, we allow these external forces to dictate our outcomes, shape our minds, and guide our decisions. But what happens when what we allow becomes our standard? And how does our standard define our life’s trajectory? The Power of Allowing Imagine your […]
As we navigate our way through the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™ for personal transformation, we’ve explored Desire, the importance of Exploring Your WHY, the unwavering Commitment required, and the pivotal Identity Shift. We now arrive at the second ‘D’ – Daily Habits, the quiet yet powerful engine of change. It’s important to note that our brains like efficiency and are hardwired to be just that. When we learn a new habit, and it’s repeated, our brain will […]
In our ongoing exploration of the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™ for personal transformation, we’ve already covered ‘D’ for Desire and ‘E’ for Exploring Your WHY. Today, we delve into the third integral step of the process – ‘C’ for Commitment. Commitment: The Non-Negotiable Ingredient Commitment is arguably the most crucial aspect of the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™. It’s about being 100% committed to your commitment, leaving no room for half-hearted efforts. While a 98% commitment might seem substantial, it […]
I have a serious question for you and one that might poke you a bit. What relationship(s) are you currently in that are draining or feeling strained? Where are you ignoring the obvious truth? You most likely are stuck in a gray area relationship. “What is that?”, you may be asking? In relationships, there can often be a gray area – an elusive space where things are neither exceptionally good nor notably bad. This gray […]
Change is an inevitable part of life, and sometimes, we need to make significant adjustments in our habits, relationships, or lifestyle to improve our well-being. The six-stage model of change* is a useful roadmap for making such changes, as it helps us recognize and understand the different phases we experience when attempting to create lasting transformation in our lives. In this blog post, we’ll explore each stage by drawing from my own personal experience. We’ll […]
Are you successful in most areas of your life, yet somehow still feel unfulfilled? Have you found yourself trapped in a “gray area” of mediocrity, wondering why your life feels incomplete despite seemingly having it all? If you’re nodding your head in agreement, this blog post is for you. It’s time to acknowledge the gray area, identify the reasons behind it, and discover how to break free and find true fulfillment. Defining the Gray Area […]
Are you tired of feeling stuck in a cycle of negativity? Are you constantly complaining and grumbling about life’s challenges? It’s time to break free and embrace a more positive mindset. In this blog post, we’ll explore the detrimental effects of complaining on our lives, relationships, and overall well-being. We’ll also discuss actionable steps to help you stop complaining and start thriving. Lastly, discover how working with a coach can guide you on your journey […]
Being busy working and dealing with all that life can throw at you often leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms, like excessive alcohol consumption, emotional eating, etc., to escape the daily stressors. This self-sabotage can significantly hinder your progress and overall well-being. Understanding the difference between goals and intentions and incorporating daily intentions into your routine can be the game-changer you need to break free from these destructive behaviors and reach your full potential. Let’s take […]
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a cycle, repeating the same behavior over and over again, hoping for a different outcome? Maybe it’s drinking too much, neglecting your relationships, or engaging in self-destructive habits like emotional eating or not working out. Deep down, you know these behaviors are not serving you, yet you continue to do them anyway. You’re not alone, if so. Many of us find ourselves in the same position. In this […]
The Power of Being Okay with Not Being Okay: How to Embrace Your Emotions and Cultivate Resilience in your life
The pressure to always feel happy and content is immense in today’s society. We are constantly bombarded with images of perfect lives and success stories, which can make us feel like we’re not measuring up. But the truth is, it’s okay to not be okay. Life is full of ups and downs, and it’s normal to feel sad, anxious, or stressed at times. Holding in Emotions is Damaging Trying to suppress our emotions and pretend […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.