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How to Know the Secret of NOT Drinking

Many of us marvel at how some individuals lead lives untouched by the taste of alcohol. In contrast, others find themselves caught in the merry-go-round of evening drinks, often searching for that elusive balance between casual and overconsumption. The answer doesn’t lie in a rare gene or a mystical talent. The secret weapon is surprisingly simple: A Decision. Unmasking the Myth of Willpower and Genes One of the biggest misconceptions surrounding alcohol consumption is that […]

Transform Your Life: The Science and Strategy of Habit Change

Changing your habits is no small feat. However, understanding a habit’s anatomy can make this daunting task more manageable. The quest to change bad habits while fostering good ones is essential for self-expansion—a daily commitment to small changes leads to a transformation of the self. The Anatomy of a Habit: Cues, Triggers, Response, and Reward Cue and Trigger A habit starts with a cue, a situational trigger that prompts you to act. This cue may be […]

Why Everyday Effort is the Secret to Lasting Change

We’ve journeyed together through the intricate steps of the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model of Change™ for personal transformation, discussing a strong Desire to change, the Exploration of our WHY, having a strong Commitment to self, needing an Identity Shift, and the power of Daily Habits. Today, we arrive at the final step of the process – ‘E’ for Everyday Effort equals Expansion. Everyday Effort: The Catalyst for Expansion Success, as with any meaningful change, isn’t achieved overnight. […]

How to Make a Change Using the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™

In the journey of life, change is inevitable. Whether it’s a shift in career, a transition in relationships, or an evolution in health habits, the pursuit of change can be challenging yet incredibly rewarding. However, knowing how to navigate this path to personal growth is crucial, and that’s where the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model of Change™ comes into play. The D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™ is a unique, holistic approach to facilitating transformative change in your life. Over the next […]

How to Know if You’re in the Gray Area

In the realm of habits and behaviors, we often oscillate between what is “okay” and what is extreme. For example, you may socially drink but fear sliding into excessive indulgence. Just like gray area drinking, there are numerous other habits where we can find ourselves stuck in these so-called ‘gray zones.’ This post aims to explore these spaces and provide insights on how to maintain balance in our behaviors. With our human brains wired to […]

How to Find Joy & Peace in a Dying Relationship

I have a serious question for you and one that might poke you a bit. What relationship(s) are you currently in that are draining or feeling strained? Where are you ignoring the obvious truth? You most likely are stuck in a gray area relationship. “What is that?”, you may be asking? In relationships, there can often be a gray area – an elusive space where things are neither exceptionally good nor notably bad. This gray […]

How to Know if You Are a Gray Area Drinker

We live in a world that’s often perceived in stark contrasts, but reality, as we know, is woven with multiple shades of gray. One such gray area that invites our attention and introspection is that of our drinking habits. It impacts countless individuals across the globe, often quietly, and is known as Gray Area Drinking. The traditional societal viewpoint has long categorized drinking habits in a rigid dichotomy: one is either an alcoholic or they […]

How To Know What Stage of Change You’re In

Change is an inevitable part of life, and sometimes, we need to make significant adjustments in our habits, relationships, or lifestyle to improve our well-being. The six-stage model of change* is a useful roadmap for making such changes, as it helps us recognize and understand the different phases we experience when attempting to create lasting transformation in our lives. In this blog post, we’ll explore each stage by drawing from my own personal experience. We’ll […]

Escaping the Gray Areas: How to Find Fulfillment Beyond Material Success

Are you successful in most areas of your life, yet somehow still feel unfulfilled? Have you found yourself trapped in a “gray area” of mediocrity, wondering why your life feels incomplete despite seemingly having it all? If you’re nodding your head in agreement, this blog post is for you. It’s time to acknowledge the gray area, identify the reasons behind it, and discover how to break free and find true fulfillment. Defining the Gray Area […]

How To Stop Complaining: The Key to Unlocking a Positive Mindset and Thriving Relationships

Are you tired of feeling stuck in a cycle of negativity? Are you constantly complaining and grumbling about life’s challenges? It’s time to break free and embrace a more positive mindset. In this blog post, we’ll explore the detrimental effects of complaining on our lives, relationships, and overall well-being. We’ll also discuss actionable steps to help you stop complaining and start thriving. Lastly, discover how working with a coach can guide you on your journey […]

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