Many of us marvel at how some individuals lead lives untouched by the taste of alcohol. In contrast, others find themselves caught in the merry-go-round of evening drinks, often searching for that elusive balance between casual and overconsumption. The answer doesn’t lie in a rare gene or a mystical talent. The secret weapon is surprisingly simple: A Decision. Unmasking the Myth of Willpower and Genes One of the biggest misconceptions surrounding alcohol consumption is that […]
Changing your habits is no small feat. However, understanding a habit’s anatomy can make this daunting task more manageable. The quest to change bad habits while fostering good ones is essential for self-expansion—a daily commitment to small changes leads to a transformation of the self. The Anatomy of a Habit: Cues, Triggers, Response, and Reward Cue and Trigger A habit starts with a cue, a situational trigger that prompts you to act. This cue may be […]
In a world of incessant noise and constant external influence, it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle. We’re continually bombarded with information, advice, standards, and expectations from others. Often, without even realizing it, we allow these external forces to dictate our outcomes, shape our minds, and guide our decisions. But what happens when what we allow becomes our standard? And how does our standard define our life’s trajectory? The Power of Allowing Imagine your […]
We’ve journeyed together through the intricate steps of the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model of Change™ for personal transformation, discussing a strong Desire to change, the Exploration of our WHY, having a strong Commitment to self, needing an Identity Shift, and the power of Daily Habits. Today, we arrive at the final step of the process – ‘E’ for Everyday Effort equals Expansion. Everyday Effort: The Catalyst for Expansion Success, as with any meaningful change, isn’t achieved overnight. […]
As we navigate our way through the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™ for personal transformation, we’ve explored Desire, the importance of Exploring Your WHY, the unwavering Commitment required, and the pivotal Identity Shift. We now arrive at the second ‘D’ – Daily Habits, the quiet yet powerful engine of change. It’s important to note that our brains like efficiency and are hardwired to be just that. When we learn a new habit, and it’s repeated, our brain will […]
We’ve been walking through the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model of Change™ for personal transformation, having covered ‘D’ for Desire, ‘E’ for Exploring Your WHY, and ‘C’ for Commitment. Today, we turn to the fascinating I -Identity Shift. This crucial step in your transformation journey necessitates a change in your belief system and an embrace of a new identity. An Identity Shift is Redefining Yourself Our identities are intrinsically linked to our behaviors. The person we perceive ourselves […]
In our ongoing exploration of the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™ for personal transformation, we’ve already covered ‘D’ for Desire and ‘E’ for Exploring Your WHY. Today, we delve into the third integral step of the process – ‘C’ for Commitment. Commitment: The Non-Negotiable Ingredient Commitment is arguably the most crucial aspect of the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™. It’s about being 100% committed to your commitment, leaving no room for half-hearted efforts. While a 98% commitment might seem substantial, it […]
In the journey of life, change is inevitable. Whether it’s a shift in career, a transition in relationships, or an evolution in health habits, the pursuit of change can be challenging yet incredibly rewarding. However, knowing how to navigate this path to personal growth is crucial, and that’s where the D.E.C.I.D.E. Model of Change™ comes into play. The D.E.C.I.D.E. Model™ is a unique, holistic approach to facilitating transformative change in your life. Over the next […]
In the realm of habits and behaviors, we often oscillate between what is “okay” and what is extreme. For example, you may socially drink but fear sliding into excessive indulgence. Just like gray area drinking, there are numerous other habits where we can find ourselves stuck in these so-called ‘gray zones.’ This post aims to explore these spaces and provide insights on how to maintain balance in our behaviors. With our human brains wired to […]
I have a serious question for you and one that might poke you a bit. What relationship(s) are you currently in that are draining or feeling strained? Where are you ignoring the obvious truth? You most likely are stuck in a gray area relationship. “What is that?”, you may be asking? In relationships, there can often be a gray area – an elusive space where things are neither exceptionally good nor notably bad. This gray […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.