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13 Ignorant Things to Never Say to a Non-Drinker

13 Ignorant Things to Never Say to a Non-Drinker

There are some things you just should never say to a non-drinker.  The reason WHY someone is choosing not to drink is private to them and varies from recovery, diet choice, religious reasons, or just because they don’t like alcohol. If you don’t want to appear ignorant, inconsiderate, or embarrassing to yourself, consider refraining from the following: Come on; you can have just one! -  Having just one maybe like having 10 for the person. Would you tell an obese...

Could YOU be a Gray Area Drinker?

Could YOU be a Gray Area Drinker?

Many adults that drink alcohol could easily fall into the gray area category. They experience similarities regarding their inner conflicts and struggles. Most are overworked, overstressed, and pulled in many directions. In other words, they lack having work/life balance and joy in their lives.  Some are searching for a life purpose. Some have very little to no self-love or respect or carrying around unresolved childhood trauma.  Men and women that fall into the gray area tend not to drink at...

 

Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.

I am a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career-path conqueror, speaker, writer, coach, and entrepreneur. I am also a former gray area drinker that struggled with understanding the why and how I got there.

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  • This quote is everything! How you define your own identify dictates how you behave and what you do. ⠀ ⠀ If you’re not feeling fulfilled in your life, the answer is to look deep inside of who you see yourself to be. ⠀ ⠀ Sounds daunting, doesn’t it? But it doesn’t have to be if you have someone by your side to guide you. ⠀ ⠀ It takes getting honest, gaining self awareness, developing self-love, and uncovering the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck. ⠀ ⠀ Maybe you’ve been desiring a happy marriage or better relationship with your spouse. Or wanting a career that fuels your passion. Maybe you are tired of doing it all and just need to find a way to take a break. ⠀ ⠀ It’s almost impossible to be pulled in 1000 directions and find time to take care of you. Maybe that’s why you’re feeling unfulfilled. ⠀ ⠀ Sister, I got you. I say that because I was you! ⠀ If you’re ready to change your identity to one that you love, let’s chat. I can help you get there. ⠀ ⠀ And when you change your identity, your behaviors will improve to produce much growth, satisfaction, and self worth. Promise. 💕
  • Do you have a favorite morning routine? Or are you a “sleep till the last possible moment and scramble to get out the door” type of person??⠀ ⠀ I used to be like that ^^^ 🤷🏻‍♀️⠀ ⠀ I’ve found that by setting the intention as your feet hit the floor is a beautiful way to start your day. I have a morning routine that serves me in a powerful way and thought I’d share it with you.⠀ ⠀ ⭐️ I do not look at my phone (social media or emails) at all for at least 60 minutes. I do, however, use my phone for an alarm and for my meditation & exercise music. 😉⠀ ⠀ ⭐️ I work out 🏋️‍♀️- either take the dog for a walk and do light weights at home OR head to the gym for my heavy cardio & strength training days. (4 days per week with one day of yoga and Barre class! - my fav!) ⠀ ⠀ ⭐️ Journal - it is my own sacred scripture and nothing is better than seeing my personal growth on paper. ⠀ ⠀ ⭐️ Meditate - sets my intention for the day. I aim for 10 minutes but often only do about 5. I’m a work in progress. Sometimes I do Dr. Joe Dispenza’s meditation that is 45 minutes! But not in the morning - whew! ⠀ ⠀ ⭐️ I read 4 pages of affirmations OUT LOUD to myself. It reinforces my goals and desires. And I visualize what I want my day and future to look like! I SEE it. ⠀ ⭐️ Pray and read my daily devotional. Without my faith, I am nothin!⠀ ⠀ ⭐️ Either read or listen to something of value. I love inspirational podcasts and self development books. ⠀ ⠀ After all that, I eat breakfast. Girl needs nutrition! My usual is coffee, yogurt with granola and a banana 🍌 ✅⠀ ⠀ Having a consistent daily routine sets my day to stay in a powerful state, having grateful and being productive. It’s what I teach my clients to do also. ⠀ ⠀ What do YOU do in the morning that is your go-to routine? How do you set yourself up for a good day? ⠀ Please share your routine below ⤵️
  • Worry does nothing but stress us out more. ⠀ Instead, BREATHE AND TRUST.⠀ ⠀ Its that simple. ⠀ ⠀ Trust that things will work out as they should. If you’re doing what’s right in your soul, leave the rest. ⠀ ⠀ Easier said than done, I know. But if you stay in constant worry, it only reinforces the same thinking patterns of more worrisome. ⠀ ⠀ Let go.
  • Do you struggle with saying no? This time of year is full of activities from parties, family obligations and work celebrations, not to mention doing something you’re not comfortable doing. ⠀ ⠀ But what if you don’t want to go? What if you don’t want to participate in an activity? What if you don’t want to drink alcohol at the party?⠀ ⠀ Are you honest? Or do you give in? ⠀ ⠀ I struggled with saying no for years in fear of hurting someone’s feelings or not fitting in. But in the end it was ME that was suffering. ⠀ ⠀ If I’m not in a good place, I can’t be good to anyone else. 🙃⠀ ⠀ If you are faced with a decision and you want to say no, you can just say no. Or, you can reframe it in a way that sounds like you’re interested but need to check your calendar and get back to them later with an answer. ⠀ ⠀ Be unapologetic about taking care of YOU and your needs this month. Yes, it’s the time of giving but if you’re not in a good place, you can’t be good for anyone or anything around you. ⠀ ⠀ If you’ve experienced difficulties in saying no, what have you done to overcome it? Let me know by dropping a comment below ⤵️😉⠀ ⠀ Have some grace on yourself during this holiday season. You are worth it. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀
  • I don’t think we truly believe the power we have within us. I’m talking about life-changing power! ⠀ ⠀ Most think circumstances define us but they do not. ⠀ ⠀ Here’s some truth:⠀ ⠀ ✳️You are NOT your past. ⠀ ⠀ ✳️You are NOT your trauma. ⠀ ⠀ ✳️You are NOT your mistakes or failures. ⠀ ⠀ They are all just circumstances that happened. Our past failures are lessons and opportunities. ⠀ Your past was written for you in order to become the person you are today. ⠀ The trauma you experienced happened to MOVE into greatness and for you to share your story to help others. ⠀ ⠀ Here’s more truth:⠀ ⠀ ‼️NOBODY IS WITHOUT SOMETHING‼️⠀ ⠀ We ALL have stories. ⠀ Those stories can keep us stuck. ⠀ ⠀ Don’t be afraid to move into your power. ⠀ ⠀ It’s time to OWN IT. It’s time for you to claim it for yourself. ⠀ ⠀ No more “I’m not good enough”. No more “I don’t deserve it”. No more “My story is so bad, you just don’t understand”. ⠀ ⠀ I’ve been there. I get it. ⠀ ⠀ Friend, I got you. You’re not alone and you don’t need to stay meek and powerless. That’s not why you’re here. You’re here to shine brightly and live a prosperous and rich life. ⠀ ⠀ I got you because I was you. ⠀ 💕💕💕
  • Staying committed to your goals isn’t easy. But in order to reach the next level, you have to dig deep. This is true for me whether it’s one more rep at the gym or it’s to remain sober and alcohol free for one more day. ⠀ ⠀ This time of year is full of excuses. “Ahh, it’s the holidays! Relax a little, it’s okay to blow off the gym. Go ahead, just have one drink - it’s no big deal!”⠀ ⠀ Blah blah blah!!!! 🤮⠀ ⠀ They’re just excuses to derail you. ⠀ ⠀ When you know you’re doing what YOU said you would do, there’s internal power that nobody else can give you. That’s because you’re staying committed to YOU!! ⠀ ⠀ It’s so easy to say it “screw it” but don’t. Keep going with whatever your goals are for yourself. ⠀ ⠀ You’ll be SO glad you stayed committed to the most important person - YOU. ⠀ ⠀ You are the ultimate prize. 🏆⠀ ⠀ What’s your ONE big goal that you are refusing to give up on?? ⠀ ⠀ Share with me 😊⤵️⤵️⤵️
  • My first fear of living without alcohol is that I would be boring or not able to have a social life. I was SO wrong. ⠀ ⠀ Do YOU believe you can have fun without drinking? ⠀ ⠀ What I’ve found is my life is RICHER without it. I remember EVERYTHING and am present for my family and friends. ⠀ ⠀ No more hangovers. ⠀ No more worry of getting a DUI/DWI. ⠀ No more wasted money. ⠀ No more wasted time! ⠀ No more drunk texts. ⠀ No more acting like a fool! ⠀ No more forgetfulness! ⠀ No more worrying that I said something wrong!⠀ ⠀ Instead I have wonderful memories and an abundance of fun while drinking my favorite mocktail or cranberry and club. I LOVE my alcohol-free life! ⠀ ⠀ You don’t NEED to drink in order to have fun. You may just need to learn how to decompress, have healthy options and find joy in your life. ⠀ ⠀ So, if you are having fun WITHOUT drinking, drop me a comment below! Tell me what you’re doing! 😉⤵️ Lets show everyone how it’s done. ⠀ ⠀
  • You have more power within you than you may realize. When you lose the faith of recognizing this power, you cannot succeed to your highest potential. ⠀ ⠀ This is true for most people. They live within the realm of “this is as good as it gets.” That’s okay if you don’t have desire to be all that you were created to be, but I’m here to challenge you into believing that you ARE created for more. ⠀ ⠀ Much more. ⠀ ⠀ For a long time I didn’t believe it for myself. I just existed and accepted my ho-hum attitude towards life. Not anymore. ⠀ ⠀ Please don’t settle for mediocrity in your life. If you want to be happier, experience joy, find your purpose, feel appreciated, succeed in your professional life and have it all, YOU CAN. ⠀ ⠀ Yes, you really can have it all. It starts with making a decision. ⠀ ⠀ The above quote was taken from a book called “The Power of Decision.” I highly recommend it. It’s what I base some of my teachings on and how I help my clients. ⠀ ⠀ If you want to know more, let’s chat. If you’re not ready yet, let’s stay connected by joining my enewsletter. Link is in the bio. ⠀ ⠀ Don’t settle for ho-hum living. You deserve so much more! I can help you achieve it. 😉
  • Seriously, if you’re reading this, thank you for being a part of my Insta family! I’m so grateful to have you here with me! Much love and blessings to you and your family!

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