Great, you made it to the end of Dry January! Or was it more like Damp January? Either way, the big question is NOW WHAT? One thing is for sure, February is here and you now get to make some decisions! Let’s look at some questions to help guide you: Self Reflection For most people, taking a pause is a time of self-reflection. It can be a reset, recharge or a renewal to yourself that […]
I love the word Embrace. The definition means an act of accepting or supporting something willingly or enthusiastically. It’s also an essential part of the SABER flow. Embrace is something you may be tempted to skip over as you move through the SABER process. Why? Because it can feel selfish, or self-serving. It can also be difficult to accept the circumstances in front of you. So why is it important to support yourself willingly or […]
Breathing is a precious gift. We don’t have to think about it, of course, but what happens when we do it with deliberate intention? SABER is an easy flow to put into play whenever you find yourself fighting an urge, temptation, inner mind chatter, or when you’re experiencing an emotion that you don’t prefer. By using breath deliberately, you are self-regulating and calming your mind and body. Let’s recap the SABER up to this point. […]
Today we are continuing the SABER flow by looking at the A in SABER. ACKNOWLEDGE You just learned about the importance of saying STOP out loud when you find yourself in a power struggle within your mind. By saying STOP, you could bring awareness of this inner mind struggle forward to your conscious mind where you rationalize thinking. Now that you have successfully paused the inner chatter, it’s time to acknowledge the thinking. What are […]
If you’re like me, you feel as though you can’t turn your brain off at times, as if there are hamsters on a wheel in your head. Or perhaps it’s an urge to have or do something you probably shouldn’t have. Or maybe you find yourself angry and ready to pull your hair out because you’re so stressed! What should you do when you find yourself experiencing this power struggle? STOP! Say the word stop […]
Secrets. We all have at least one in our life. Some may be as innocent as stealing a pack of gum in 6th grade while others may be more serious such as an addiction, an eating disorder, an affair, or something else. The one that I kept mostly quiet, and unassuming, was my relationship with alcohol. As a nightly drinker, the story I told myself was that I was sophisticated and well cultured. It sounded […]
If you asked me ten years ago about my knowledge of wine, I could easily rattle off the different varietals and regions worldwide. I prided myself for knowing more than the average person and gave myself the distinguished title of “Wine Snob”. And… so I was. I elegantly disguised my wine habit as my wine hobby. I wasn’t just a social drinker. I was a wine connoisseur. I was a big California red know-it-all, and […]
Why does time seem to melt away the negative memories, yet accentuate the perception of the good memories? So, what happens when you only remember the good? Think back to a time where you may have laughed, been silly, or maybe a little crazy. You had a great time at the moment, but the aftermath or duration was horrendous. You paid it for it dearly with a massive hangover, a fight with a loved one, or […]
Have you ever told yourself a convoluted story that was so intricately woven with thoughts only to find out none of it was true? It’s easy to do when our brains have an average of 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. This can create havoc in our minds, and we end up manifesting our destiny without knowing the implications. So what is the secret on how to stop your mind from racing? This is important as […]
Maybe you’ve recently heard the term, gray area drinking, and wondered if it’s okay to be in the gray? Anytime we put the words, “okay” and “alcohol” together, I raise an eyebrow. If you’re asking what the heck is gray area drinking, you can read more here at, What is Gray Area Drinking. If you’re someone that enjoys bourbon on the rocks or a glass of red Napa Valley Cabernet from time to time, this […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.