A question all sober-curious drinkers dread is, “why aren’t you drinking”? The silent gulp in the throat, the spinning thoughts for a convincing response, and the deep insecurity of exposing oneself is enough reason to say screw it and give in. The societal pressure, overall acceptance, and expectation of drinking alcohol can be overwhelming to those trying to moderate or abstain. Wherever you go, there it is. As a former drinker myself, I experienced comments […]
I still remember that phone call in the summer of 2017 from my friend, Beth. She is a sweet Southern belle with a cute accent that occasionally drops the “all y’all” saying. Beth is what I would describe as the church-going, business owner with an MLM company, mother of 3, that is trying to juggle it all. From her peers and the outside world, she has everything most women would die for, including a supportive […]
If you’re one of the several million people ready to ditch the booze this January, you are in good company. Dry January, as it’s formally called, has become extremely popular over the past several years, and for good reason. As the holidays start to wind down, you may be looking back on the past few months at your overindulgences and welcome a clean slate. This is the perfect time to start the New year (and […]
There are some things you just should never say to a non-drinker. The reason WHY someone is choosing not to drink is private to them and varies from recovery, diet choice, religious reasons, or just because they don’t like alcohol. If you don’t want to appear ignorant, inconsiderate, or embarrassing to yourself, consider refraining from the following: Come on, you can have just one! – Having just one is like having 10 for the person. […]
Many adults that drink alcohol could easily fall into the gray area category. They experience similarities regarding their inner conflicts and struggles. Most are overworked, overstressed, and pulled in many directions. In other words, they lack having work/life balance and joy in their lives. Some are searching for a life purpose. Some have very little to no self-love or respect or carry around unresolved childhood trauma. Men and women that fall into the gray area […]
Have you ever pulled out a piece of paper, drew a hard vertical line down the center and wrote PROS and CONS at the top to make a decision? When you are ready to question your relationship with alcohol, try this legendary exercise. Mark at the top, “Reasons to Keep Drinking and Reasons to Quit Drinking.” It is truly eye-opening to see what transpires on paper. My own personal list was startling. It went […]
Gray Area Drinking has become a sobering reality that affects millions of people worldwide. For far too long, society has placed problematic drinking in a black or white box. One is either an alcoholic or they are not. That is simply not true. About 50% of people that consume alcohol may be in the gray area. What exactly does it mean to be in the gray area? Gray area drinking is comprised of a wide […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.