Watch the video on the D.E.C.I.D.E Model™ by clicking the photo below. It will take you to YouTube. Change can be difficult, but it is necessary for growth and progress in our lives, especially if you’re looking to change a habit. Where shall you begin? What’s the first step? The Power of D.E.C.I.D.E. is a process that can help you make positive and lasting changes in your life. This process is built on six critical […]
We’ve all been there. We’re stressed out, overwhelmed, and feeling like we’re about to snap. So what do we do? We turn to our old friend coping mechanisms to help us relax, forget our troubles, and numb out. Whether it’s drinking, smoking weed, watching porn, emotional eating, or any other type of distraction, these coping mechanisms might give us temporary relief. But in the long run, they only end up creating more stress and problems. […]
We all experience stress on a daily basis. From work, to home life, to personal relationships, feeling overwhelmed by our emotions can cause us to act impulsively and make decisions that are not in our best interest. However, when we take the time to consider the facts of a situation rather than allowing our feelings to cloud our judgment, we can better respond to our stressors in a manner that is healthier and more productive. […]
Don’t just make goals, make the reason why you want the goal most important. I’m talking about making intentions. You see, when it comes to making changes in our lives, we often hear about setting goals. However, the concept of intentions is often overlooked, even though it can play a crucial role in our ability to implement new habits and reach our desired outcomes. What are Intentions and Goals? Goals are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, […]
We are just over two weeks into January 2022, so let me ask… How are YOU doing with sticking with it, and in general? Perhaps you might be feeling a bit stuck and feeling like you might be failing this attempt of an alcohol-free January? If so, not to worry. I got you covered! Let’s look at the top 5 reasons why you might be struggling this January, and more importantly, what you can do […]
It was the day that I had secretly been waiting for, yet couldn’t (and wouldn’t) consciously admit it to myself. Call it a gut feeling, a whisper from God, or the numerous nudges from my husband and a few close friends. The seeds that were planted were beginning to bloom. And for that, I’m so grateful. The day I’m referring to was the day that I had “my enough”. That day was July 5th, 2016. […]
Are you a people pleaser?? Let’s talk about your boundaries. Have you said this would be the last time you say ‘yes’ to something you don’t really want to do… So, why are you doing it? Are you afraid to say no? Do you feel guilty for having time to yourself? Are you saying, “well, no one else will do it, so I might as well?” I get it, I feel that way too. We […]
Let me begin by stating there is no such thing as a perfect life. We ALL experience a feeling of “is this all there is?” from time to time. For some, this has been a way of life. When you think of mediocrity, what comes to mind? The Merriam Webster dictionary definition of mediocre is this: Mediocre – of moderate or low quality, value, ability, or performance My definition: So-so, humdrum, meh, settling, just okay […]
Have you ever wondered why you do something over and over again knowing that it’s not the best decision for you, but you try again hoping for a different outcome? Yup, me too. It’s the definition of insanity, doing something over and over again expecting a different result. And this, my friend, is what keeps us stuck in pattern loops, or we can also say habit loops. Insanity… Stop the Insanity! We all have familiar […]
Did you know that you possess a powerful tool within you? It’s called intention. You see, your intentions are personal. Intentions are present-based, daily commitments to self. They are your secret weapon of power. They are everything. Goals vs The Power of Intention We can sometimes confuse the word intention with goals. They are not the same thing. Goals are achievements to ‘check off a box’ when completed. They are the big audacious desires of […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.