I have a confession to make. There are occasions when I become “unglued”. I turn into a crazy person who cries and yells simultaneously. It’s not pretty. And God bless my husband. He sits back and allows me to have my fit, not saying a word. He lets me have my temper tantrum, and when it’s over, he hugs me and tells me it will be okay. Sometimes my initial response is to escape from […]
Have you ever told yourself a convoluted story that was so intricately woven with thoughts only to find out none of it was true? It’s easy to do when our brains have an average of 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. This can create havoc in our minds, and we end up manifesting our destiny without knowing the implications. So what is the secret on how to stop your mind from racing? This is important as […]
Maybe you’ve recently heard the term, gray area drinking, and wondered if it’s okay to be in the gray? Anytime we put the words, “okay” and “alcohol” together, I raise an eyebrow. If you’re asking what the heck is gray area drinking, you can read more here at, What is Gray Area Drinking. If you’re someone that enjoys bourbon on the rocks or a glass of red Napa Valley Cabernet from time to time, this […]
You’re standing at the crossroads and know a decision must happen, but you’re frozen. “Why is this so hard?”, you wonder. Vulnerability, embarrassment, and shame are the reasons that prevent you from reaching out for help. That, plus a little denial mixed in. Maybe you aren’t ready to admit that you even need support. After all, you’re a professional and need to “look the part”, and conduct yourself as such. It’s too risky to let […]
You know the familiar term, “Ignorance is bliss,” right? Well, never before has that term been so accurate as it is today. As I write this blog post, it’s April 2020, the year that changed right before our eyes. It’s also Alcohol Awareness Month, a time that is set aside to talk openly about the facts of alcohol. It’s Alcohol Awareness Month! Before you close off from the topic and say, “that’s not me”, consider […]
Due to COVID-19, we are in unprecedented territory as a global community. The fear of this new reality is very real. It can be described as Predictable Uncertainty. We are most fearful when we don’t know what’s coming next. Our body is hardwired to move into a sympathetic response in our nervous system causing us to fight, flight, or freeze in unknown terror. It’s understandable. The threat is real and we should be taking this […]
A question all sober-curious drinkers dread is, “why aren’t you drinking”? The silent gulp in the throat, the spinning thoughts for a convincing response, and the deep insecurity of exposing oneself is enough reason to say screw it and give in. The societal pressure, overall acceptance, and expectation of drinking alcohol can be overwhelming to those trying to moderate or abstain. Wherever you go, there it is. As a former drinker myself, I experienced comments […]
When I first quit drinking, a friend suggested a book, The Miracle Morning, by Hal Elrod. This book was a game-changer and the stepping stone into the deep dive of my self-development rituals. In the book, Hal shares the benefits of a morning routine that includes: prayer/meditation, journaling, saying affirmations, visualizing, exercise, and reading. Hal also has a podcast that I listen to regularly called Achieve Your Goals. About a year ago, episode #270, Hal […]
Have you ever pulled out a piece of paper, drew a hard vertical line down the center and wrote PROS and CONS at the top to make a decision? When you are ready to question your relationship with alcohol, try this legendary exercise. Mark at the top, “Reasons to Keep Drinking and Reasons to Quit Drinking.” It is truly eye-opening to see what transpires on paper. My own personal list was startling. It went […]
Hi! I’m Kari Schwear, Founder of GrayTonic, and the Question the Drink movement.
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.