As a ‘hurry-up’ society, we have programmed ourselves to be BUSY. We believe to be busy means successful or accomplished. We may even think it means to be productive. The truth is busy just means to be distracted.
If you’re honest, you have said multiple times, “I’m too busy.” We wrap ourselves with things to do to feel productive. The problem with this thinking is that you aren’t prioritizing your needs and desires; thus creating a tremendous amount of overwhelm and unnecessary stress. We all do it. We are all guilty of this thinking, but there is a better way.
It’s not your fault; you weren’t taught how to process the overwhelm. It’s something that you’ve accepted as the norm. “It is what it is,” so to speak.
Society has done a great job of helping us create a life of busyness. The more we pile on our plate, the more successful we will be, they say. If life gets too hard, see your doctor for some anxiety medication to take the edge off.
Maybe alcohol is your jam. Heck, everyone drinks so why not you? It helps ease the stress of the day. It helps to take away the crap you had to deal with at work. It helps with your feeling of overwhelm. After all, work is meant for a paycheck and insurance. Just get through the workweek to live for the weekends. Party hard and then back to work on Monday. We call this, “work hard to play hard.” I call it something else.
The Crutches of Busyness Burnout
Perhaps you wash away your emotions with food, either too much or too little. Or perhaps it’s exercise. Or maybe for you, it’s sex or pornography, or perhaps gambling, gaming, or social media.
Whatever is your clutch or coping aid, it doesn’t matter. We have to stand in front of the mirror and look at ourselves openly and honestly. What are we doing? Why are we slowly killing ourselves with so much stuff? Why do we pile on more responsibilities, more work, more activities, more to-do’s? Is there a reason we believe this is good for us?
The problem isn’t the prescription medications or alcohol. It isn’t the overuse of food or sex. The problem isn’t a lack of time. The REAL problem is that we weren’t taught how to think, feel, and process our overwhelm. The real question is why we believe we need these crutches to make it through life! Since when did it become normal to pop a Xanax while drinking wine to fall asleep or cope with your day-to-day life?
Why and when did this become okay???
Friend, I am here to tell you that this thinking is NOT okay. This unintelligent thinking stems from a flight or fight response from our primal brain. Your unconscious mind doesn’t want to deal with the stress or be uncomfortable. So instead of processing the difficulties in life in a healthy way, we have been led to believe that we don’t have to feel anything.
We numb our day away with coping methods that are slowly killing us. This inevitably keeps us in the gray area. Not bad enough to be called an addict, but not living the life you were meant to live.
You weren’t born with needing prescription meds or with a wine glass in your hand. You aren’t meant for the unnecessary stress that you have slowly let creep into your life. You are meant for so much more.
What we want for our lives is this:
- Balance, joy, peace
- Enjoy life every day without stress and overwhelm
- Time with the kids
- More personal time
- More money
- More social time
- To feel better
- Feeling strong
- Feel stable
- Feel complete
- Have peace of mind
- Experience pleasure daily
- Have immense gratitude
- Have massive clarity
- A sense of purpose/why you are here
If any of the above resonates with you, it’s time to unmask your truth. We have been living a life of lies. You are not meant to live this way. We are called to live purposed filled lives, ones that are full of joy, peace, and abundance. It is written as such. Yes, troubles are to be expected, but the way is to go through them – not by masking the underlying truth.
There are many good self-improvement books and gurus out there that can help. But what you can’t get from a book or podcast is direct feedback and clarity like you can by working with someone 1:1 to help you see the inner conflict living within. It’s okay; we all have inner demons to address. Working with a coach to find your limiting beliefs, will help you to learn how to process your stress, gain control of your life and help you stay in a powerful state of being. The state in which you truly desire, not just ‘getting by’ in life.
I know you’re afraid of change. It feels scary, but if you’re done with being weighed down by the busyness if your life, there is no better time than now to fix it. Life is short, and life is precious. Make it worth living. Stop hiding behind a mask.
You can expect to get all of the beautiful things you want in your life, but only if you are committed, coachable and willing to do the work.
If you’re ready to take the next steps, schedule a free Discovery call today. There is no better time. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. (nothing to lose except your family, your job, your kids, your house, your dignity, your struggles, your anxiety, your pills, your drugs, your hangovers, your stress and overwhelm).
It takes courage to make the first step but once you do, you will never look back. Take the leap. Your purpose is so much more. You don’t need to wait until retirement or the weekends to live the life you want now.